Grim Humor on a Bright and Sunny Day

Yesterday my neighbors came over to see about installing a folding door into my studio. I am really glad they did because we talked over the options and they persuaded me to get something that is a lot better than what I originally thought. Then we sat and “visited” as my Aunt Jo would say. There was a moment when Elizabeth complimented my new glasses’ frames. She was looking at me very intently, and I somehow understood she wanted to see the scratches over my eye. I took off my glasses, and there was a moment when we were communicating without saying anything. I “told” her somehow about how frightened I was. She’s pretty stoical, and I’m pretty stoical as well; we’re both very independent. I’m 100% sure she got the whole message even though we didn’t say anything.

The conversation turned to Covid and the K95 mask. My perspective on Covid has evolved or something. I think we can be masked and boostered up the whazoo, but Covid isn’t going away. It’s going to be part of our lives forever and part of human life into perpetuity. I believe in vaccinations and being careful, but I no longer thing we’re going to “stop” it because, obviously we’re not. In some paradoxical way, we might owe something to the anti-vaxxers. It’s occurred to me that if our initial reaction had been much calmer and less political we wouldn’t have lost all those people. I don’t know, of course, but the thought has crossed my mind. But then, yesterday, as we were talking about the new advice coming out about masks and how unlikely any of us are to be so close to the face of an unknown human for 20+ minutes, Elizabeth said, “Well, I just decided that I’m going to wear any mask I want!” Elizabeth was one of the wonderful volunteer seamstresses who made masks for local hospitals in the early days of the virus.

I looked at her and said, “I thought about this when I fell. I thought, ‘I could die of a skull fracture in a fall wearing a K95 mask’.” I love my friends for many reasons, but one is that they both found that funny and we three had a good laugh.

Friends are remarkable treasures. One of the things about Covid that I deeply appreciate is the ties between people that have emerged in my life as a result. Crazy if you think that we’ve all be somewhat “isolated,” but there it is. A person can go along being a rugged individualist only as long as no one needs him/her and he/she doesn’t need anyone else. But the reality is we always need each other and we need to be needed by others. ❤

Anyway, I’m getting a device that will tell someone if I’ve fallen and can’t get up, and I have an appointment to see my doctor on Monday. I hope it’s something like an inner ear infection, but if it’s a balance problem, I’m on it already. Hopefully I will not write any more posts like this, but who knows. Time stalks all of us, I guess.

18 thoughts on “Grim Humor on a Bright and Sunny Day

  1. Will Covid ever go away? Good question! You’re probably right — at least in one way. With immunization some specific diseases — diphtheria, small pox — have been wiped out, but viruses will be with us forever, ever morphing.
    Every now and then an especially bad one — SAARS, the Norwalk virus — comes along. Really severe ones like Covid maybe every fifty years or so. I think that will continue as long as the world does, and health officiials will find better ways of predicting, isolating, and treating them.

    It’s interesting that no one, anti- or pro- vaxxer, has suggested shutting down international travel — the best way to spread viruses.

  2. I’m glad you are getting an alert bracelet! My grandmother got one after her sister fell in her apartment bathroom and couldn’t get up – wasn’t found for 2 days. She survived but was VERY unhappy about the whole episode. Anyway, it sounds like you are being proactive and that is always a good thing! As for COVID, I suspect we will be getting COVID/Flu shots every year as a routine measure from here on out.

    • I honestly hate all of this. I’m glad I have a doctor appointment, but I dread it. It seems like a lot of life has been like that lately. All we can do is be proactive and try to take things in stride, but… I saw a meme the other day that said, “I’m really done with ‘things that don’t kill us make us stronger’.” 😀

  3. I believe a sense of humour sustains us through the darkest hours! I know when I’m having trouble facing the day, a good laugh can turn things around! The problem(s) may still exist but I’m better able to handle them! I’m sure there is research on the brain and laughter.

  4. My wife the nurse got us some N95s They aren’t any more miserable to wear than a regular mask, so to me there’s no point in not wearing one. I’ve been vaccinated and boosted so I’m not worried about myself. Que sera sera! I’ve done what I can, so let the cow patties fall where they may. It is *inevitable* that COVID becomes endemic, not because of anti-vaxxers in the west but because there are billions of people who have no access to vaccination at all.

    Humanity has declined. If smallpox were to appear today, we would not defeat it.

    I hear several prominent anti-vaxxers have died from COVID. It hasn’t put a dent in the anti-vaxxer movement. That is a solid indication that it is a quasi-religious movement. It takes a spectacular amount of commitment to ignore death. They take the “Que sera sera” philosophy- at least regarding vaccination – far beyond any rational stoicism. They are a cult, regurgitating the factoids they are fed by the people they have appointed to think for them.

    I do not know about other Asian countries but in Japan, mask-wearing was common long before COVID hit.

    I no longer care about anti-vaxxers. I put them in the same class as other medical science deniers. Do not get angry or upset about that over which you have no control.

    I feel bad for those who are immunocompromised and catch it regardless of their vaccination status and whatever personal precautions they take. But the germ has become endemic and will coexist with us like the flu does. Looks like Omicron will be driving Delta out of the marketplace, tho alpha and delta will continue to exist in small numbers. That’s good news because omicron is less lethal even if more infectious. We have some really good mass-producible anti-viral drugs just hitting the market and a couple of low-cost vaccines that third-world countries could actually afford coming online.

    I am cautiously optimistic.

    • I feel pretty much like you about all this. Having realized I don’t need Covid to kill me I’m in a very different place mentally than I’ve ever been before. But time travel doesn’t exist and if it did, I’d still end up here, so… I imagine I will get a fancy mask before long.

  5. I admire the choices you’ve made for your own safety. And for the well-being of Bear and Teddy, because they don’t want to ever be without you! I’m glad you have someone nearby who would answer an alert.

    Your mention of the watch/alert system is yet another reminder to me that, by moving without knowing anyone close by in my new location, I am alone and on my own. Who would notice if I didn’t return home after a romp in the woods with my dogs? Who would I call if I got sick? The neighbors I easily connected with disappear for winter. I do believe, though, in my new community; I’m sure that if I was able to ask, they would respond. (I hate asking. It’s that independence thing.) There’s comfort in that. This quiet winter has been a wake up that I need to develop a support network before the next winter, and really, for the entire year.

    Growing old isn’t for sissies, as my father constantly reminded me! You’re wise to be proactive, Martha!

    • We have ambulance and fire departments here in this little town. I know Elizabeth or Bob would be here in minutes, if they are home, but they are older than I am and I’ve understood this is a long-term issue. I got an Apple Watch that has the falling thing as part of the built in software but similar things exist for all operating systems. I spend a few days researching and decided that would be the best solution for me plus my dad would be enraptured if he could see it ❤

      The danger is something happening and NOT being able to call, so the watch…

      I understand about hating asking. Over these past two years I've learned that the people around me are not just neighbors, but we are kind of family. It was like that in the barrio in San Diego, too. We needed each other and were there for each other, no questions asked. Bear and Teddy seem to know what happened. It's crazy but neither dog has asked for a walk since it happened. Since I think I cracked a rib it will be several weeks before — and the cranes will be here.

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