Wonderful Tea Party

It isn’t much in the grand scheme — or even in the normal scheme — but that we could meet in my actual house, drink from my actual coffee cups, and eat from my dishes? Not bring our own tea and our own cookies and sit out in the dust and cold? This is something that hasn’t happened since sometime in 2019. It was very lovely and simple and real and normal.

Friendships have been one of the boons of my post-retirement life. When you work ALL THE TIME (writing teacher with 7 classes), planning and teaching classes, grading infinite numbers of papers, and all your social energy is drained by the classroom, you don’t make friends. I had some in spite of all that, but sweet, simple socializing was very rare especially in the last few years of my career, during and after the recession.

I moved here 7 years ago without knowing anyone, but, to my great good fortune, two really great women live within a hundred yards of me. I made the snowball cookies my Swedish grandma always made. Elizabeth made Saffron buns, Karen made Spritz cookies. I made coffee in the French press. We talked about nothing in particular for an hour and a half. It was great.

I wonder if any of us will take this kind of thing for granted ever again. I hope I don’t.

25 thoughts on “Wonderful Tea Party

  1. Your coffee service is pretty, Martha. The tea party sounds/looks lovely.
    Weird about working and friends, isn’t it? My friends for 25 years were my work buddies. Two were let go after I retired and we text, but…they have to work and I don’t, so minimal time for keeping up. A have a few neighbors that are here if I need them, but tea parties with them? No. You have something special.

    • We do have something special. I’m so grateful for it. I don’t think teachers make work buddies because we’re not with our peers very much. That was something I kind of missed from working in an office but it was OK because I loved teaching.

  2. what a lovely setting and this is exactly my favorite kind of social event. how lucky for these friendships and the chance to enjoy them

  3. How beautiful ~every bit. I’m so happy you had this time. I understand about the energy you used teaching and now, to find those peaceful friends in your area of Refuge. What a wonderful tea party indeed. ❤️❤️❤️

    • I don’t have any direct experience with that, but I can definitely imagine that it’s incredibly hard. Losing a partner is losing part of yourself. It’s also difficult to learn to live alone. I’ve seen how very painful and challenging, how long it takes, after sharing a life with someone you love. ❤

      My town is very very small and I am sure my friends and I would not know each other if we lived in a big city. Our paths would never cross and if they did? We would probably think we had nothing in common, and we don't, but we appreciate each other and have fun when we're together. I'm completely aware that it's a huge gift.

    • It is amazing. Sometimes I wish I could stop or slow time so I could fully take in a beautiful moment but no. It would be great, though, to have some magic words and say them and the moment would go more slowly. ❤

  4. Everything looks beautiful (very fancy even) – but I know that no matter the delight in the cookies, the real treat is sharing with friends! I’m calling a friend today and arranging a “play date” as we haven’t been together for several weeks and we have to plan some Christmas fun!

    • I was kind of going for fancy. 🙂 It’s a kind of communication that happens in our tea parties. All three of us were raised in a world that did fancy.

  5. What a lovely tea party! Friends are elusive after we leave school — my closest friends are one I met at Curves, and several neighbors, one of whom I met when we both happened to take the trash out at the same time one evening! And the friendships are quite different in nature than they were earlier!

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