Friends came to spend the weekend and we went to the wool festival in Taos. This meant driving through breathtaking landscapes to one of the most interesting towns I know. Every year the “wool people” (don’t know what else to call them) gather in Taos to sell their raw materials and their products. And there are some VERY raw materials in the shape of alpacas, sheep and goats.
In my daily life, I try not to be an asshole and I try not to hurt people, but we’re all human beings. I’ve learned over the years that we’re all two year olds if we’re not rested and we’re not fed and we’re pushed too far from normal by circumstances. It happened to me after the glorious day, and now I’m dealing with the fallout. I said hurtful things I didn’t mean to a precious friend out of frustration, exhaustion and anxiety about our dogs who’d been left in the house all day. I was immediately sorry and said so, but some people are more able than others to turn around and say, “I know. We’re both tired and I was pressuring you. Let’s forget it ever happened.”
My mom always said, when I fought with a friend or with my brother, “Mend the fence before bedtime.” I agree 100% with that. Otherwise the sad situation just gets sadder, the rift widens and reconciliation becomes more difficult… So now I’m hoping for a breakthrough in this sad impasse.