Solemate

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Yin to My Yang.” How do you define the term “soulmate,” and do you believe in the existence of such a person — for you?

I always thought that the idea of a soulmate was someone with whom you share the innermost workings of your heart and soul. “A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity,” says Wikipedia, the source of all knowledge. That isn’t exactly what I thought back in the day. I always thought that the soulmate would “complete” me, two halves of one entity, more like this drivel from a new agey spiritual website called “Forever Conscious;”

Soul Mate: Someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness and awareness. Once the lesson has been learnt, physical separation usually occurs.

Life Partner: A companion, a friend, a stable and secure individual who you can lean on, trust and depend on to help you through life. There is a mutual feeling of love and respect and you are both in sync with each others needs and wants. 

If this new agey website is right, then yes, I’ve found numerous soulmates, but… I think the distinction made in this new agey definition is 1) wrong, 2) solipsistic. Do others exist to help ME? Or is this connection we have with others ideally a MUTUAL thing (I think it is). In my mind, the “life partner” is a soulmate and their notion of “soulmate” is a guy with whom you hook up for a period of time who makes life hell. I also don’t believe people are “sent” to teach me things. I am not the center of the universe.

My hero, Goethe, definitely believed in the soulmate idea and for years looked for her and then persisted in believing Frau von Stein was his soul mate. There was something that connected the agony of unfulfillable love to the soulmate idea, but at a certain point, he gave up on the soulmate and married a woman who made him happy even though he could not share his innermost thoughts with her. There are things that now creep me out that during my adolescence I found charming and compelling — the word “soul” is one of them. The word “mate” is another. I’m afraid I’m with Goethe on this. I wish I had started out looking for someone who was fun to be around and easy to live with. There were a lot of those guys back in the day, but they didn’t “resonate” with my “soul.” But then again, maybe that’s what “soulmate” meant all along? And I wonder whether a person’s soulmate is necessarily another person? I’ve felt that deep connection with a couple of my dogs… Here’s a thoughtful discussion on the topic of soulmates...

P.S. I wrote on this topic before. I still stand behind the last time. 🙂 I wasn’t horsing around. Brownie WAS my soulmate.

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