polf-pilf? Ch-ch-ch-changes

Daily Prompt Flip Flop Think of a topic or issue about which you’ve switched your opinion. Why the change?

There are few things about which I haven’t changed my mind. What do we ever really know? Many things about which I was absolutely certain turned out to be mistakes or conditions changed making them unlikely, unfeasible, absurd.

I never thought I’d quit teaching, but here I am never wanting to stand in front of a classroom again. I thought I’d always be hiking, but right now I’m just trying to figure out how I can get on some trail somewhere and enjoy it. I thought trekking poles were a stupid affectation and I just spent $100 for a pair. I’m divorced, so there went “As long as we both shall live.” I thought going to Europe was stupid because it was too much like America. Then I went and saw that Europe was what I was looking for. Europe was waiting for me. It had an enormous gift to give me, but I had to get there. (And it’s not like America.) When I was in China, I thought Chinese students would never be allowed to study in the US, but before I retired I got to teach dozens of Chinese students. It seemed like a miracle to me; they couldn’t understand why.

Why the change(s)? The world changes, I change, everything. Time wounds all heels or whatever. Now I just try to keep my mouth shut when I feel a strong and absolute opinion coming on (I don’t always succeed) because I KNOW the very next thing that will happen is I will be proved wrong. Even that statement is a little dangerous.


13 thoughts on “polf-pilf? Ch-ch-ch-changes

    • Yeah — I agree. With the bad changes you just have to figure out what you’re going to do to adjust to them and with the good changes you just sit back and savor them.

  1. I have resisted change for as long as I have been alive. All it has brought me is a high level of anxiety when life does throw things at me. I wish I had learned the rule of change much earlier on. Everything changes. Except apparently my willingness to accept that fact.

    • Some changes are terrifying — I did everything I could to deny the changes in my world and my job that led me to retire. But once I faced it and looked at the facts, I knew what to do. I was scared, but not anxious any more. A year or so before that I woke up screaming many mornings, seriously. It depends on the change, I guess. I get a lot of consolation (and advice) from two sentences. “I don’t know,” is one. That tells me that I may need to do more examining or that I just have to wait. The other is a Bible verse, Matt. 6:34, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”

  2. Sorry, mean to write more, but Garry came back with the take out. We only have two restaurants that aren’t poisonous and both are Japanese. Good we like raw fish.

    Change and life are the same as far as I can tell. I suspect when you stop changing, you are dead, even if they haven’t buried you yet. What’s amazing about you is that you keep riding the wave. We mature persons are not suppose to be able to adapt. Hah! You’ll show’em!

    • When I lived in China, my mother-in-law (age 70) and my best friend (age 27) both came to visit us and travel around. We had a GREAT trip planned, 3 weeks. My friend had been involved in the planning. Back then China was dirty, inconvenient and very Communist. My friend couldn’t handle it and left after 10 days. My mother-in-law learned to use chopsticks, use a stand-up toilet, learned to order in a restaurant and learned to read the characters for ice cream. We were on an old broken down bus with noisy windows; she didn’t complain. She stuffed the cracks with tissues. She had a GREAT time. And then there was my grandmother who lost her sight in her late 70s and was STILL able to direct me to Mt. Shasta and tell me where to pull off the highway for my first view of it. Those were two great ladies and they both lived well into their 90s and most of that time they were cogent and very much in the swim of things. 🙂

  3. Are you saying that you want to move to Europe now? About those changes. Everything changes a bit every day. I’ve often wished that time stood still but then everything would stagnate and maybe there would be unpleasant consequences if people did not change.

    Frankly I’m not crazy about drastic changes but I encountered some weird things while working for the government. I began to hate the way staff were treated as if we had no brains. It was a virtual constant adjustment.

    • I’d move to Europe in a heartbeat, but that’s not likely. I don’t think anyone likes changes, not the scary ones (like retiring and not knowing where you’re going to live or if you can support yourself) but it’s not like we have a lot of choice. It’s all in how we take them when they come, I think. I don’t think that kind of treatment is limited to working for the government, by the way. 😉

    • I don’t like debating opinions (one point) but mostly these were opinions like “There is no such thing as a food sensitivity” and then I end up with one. “Trekking poles are stupid” and i end up with join damage I might not have had if I’d used them. THOSE kinds of opinions. Really dumb ones…

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